Chivalry…Dead or Still Kicking?

“Whatever happened to chivalry? Does it only exist in 80’s movies? I want John Cusack holding a boombox outside my window. I wanna ride off on a lawnmower with Patrick Dempsey. I want Jake from Sixteen Candles waiting outside the church for me. I want Judd Nelson thrusting his fist into the air because he knows he got me. Just once I want my life to be like an 80’s movie, preferably one with a really awesome musical number for no apparent reason. But no, no, John Hughes did not direct my life.”–Olive, Easy A 


  • Chivalry// [1] the sum of the ideal qualifications of a knight, including courtesy, generosity, valor, and dexterity in arms. 
  •  Chivalrous// [1] having the qualities of chivalry, as courage, courtesy, and loyalty. 
                                    [2] considerate and courteous to women; gallant
                                    [3]gracious and honorable toward an enemy, especially a defeated one, and toward the weak or poor.

Opening the door, picking up the check, pulling out the chair; those are just examples of a few chivalrous or gentlemanly acts that once a long time ago happened quit often. But today in the 21st century, do we really have much of those acts going on? Some may say, yes there are a lot of acts of chivalry still going  on. But others, however, may disagree fully. They may say things like chivalry was lost when women wanted to be treated like equals. However, should we blame the equality that women once hoped for or is society as a whole the ones to blame for this mid evil tradition to have faded away with the test of time? Are there really any chivalrous people out there in the century where it is socially acceptable to have “causal sex” and not think twice about it?

Call me a hopeless romantic but, yes, I do still feel that chivalry is still alive and kicking, with the right guy of course, though this quality is very, very rare to come upon of course. I feel that there are still those prince charming, knights in the shiny armor type guys that still walk around today just waiting to treat his princess “right”. On the other hand, there are a handful of guys out there in the world today that just want sex and will do anything to get it. Not wanting this to be one-sided I wanted to hear from other’s. So I went on Facebook and asked some friends what their honest thoughts on this subject was and here what I got. Most of them responded yes it was dead. But the one response that I got that really caught my eye was from a young Marine. It stated:

“Yes chivalry is dead. It died along with the feminist movements. Women didn’t want to be treat as lesser beings than men and so the old ways of ill open the door pay for the meal pull out the chair went away. But today no one cares about anything but pleasure in the moment . Young kids lose their virginity as young as possible just to know the pleasure , not even thinking what could come from it. There’s no line of decency, so if a guy wants something he doesn’t have to wait or prove to a girl who he’s truly interested. If she isn’t giving it up then hell move on. That’s why our young marriages fail. No one cares about others only self pleasure.” –Ash Harris

After reading this I felt that ‘wow are there no good guys left, that care about you as an individual with my own thoughts and not just another notch on his headboard.’ That just can’t be! Though this comment maybe true I’m just too stubborn to believe so. I still feel that there are many princes out there in the sea of frogs.


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